WORRYING, LYING, CRITICIZING
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink, or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food and the body more important than clothes.” Matthew 6:25
Now I would be at fault if I did not address the power of thinking and speaking negative statements into our lives in a little more detail. These negations are just as powerful at creation as the affirmations and usually result from worrying, anxiety, lying, dreading, jealousy, criticism and low self-esteem. Idle words spoken in anger create. Criticisms manifest. Lies fashion reality. “What the wicked dreads will overtake him; what the righteous desire will be granted.”
Let’s first dissect what worrying really is. When we worry, we are simply dwelling on a negative expectation. We are expecting a negative outcome and we are so sure it is coming to pass that we are preparing for it. We are so sure it is coming to pass that we can’t sleep, eat or relax. We believe it is coming so much that we are acting as if it is already here. Wow! If we could just do that with our affirmations, we would be on our way to our best life. Worrying creates the thing we worry about. When we worry we think and talk about the negative. We say, “It’s just my luck. Nothing good ever happens to me.” We say it about ourselves, our children, our jobs and our bosses, our finances and our marriages. Exactly what we say then happens. We prove ourselves right.
Jesus tells us not to worry about our lives, what you will eat or drink or wear. He says to consider the birds! They don’t sow or reap or store in barns! Yet, their heavenly Father feeds them. Then he reminds us that we are more valuable than birds. I remember when I was traveling in Hawaii how beautiful and rare some of the birds were. God laid this scripture on my heart even more deeply and I began to really consider everything I could about birds.
What can we see when we watch birds? Birds walk. Some birds swim. Birds fly. Why do birds fly? Do birds fly because they have wings or do they have wings because they wanted to fly? There are some winged birds that don’t fly, like the ostrich and penguin. Do ostriches and penguins lack faith? Sort of silly, I know, but it is Jesus who asks us to consider the birds. Think about birds.
Birds sing. All day long birds sing. They focus on the positive. There is a wonderful anonymous quote that equates hope to a bird, “Hope is like a bird that senses the dawn and carefully starts singing while it is still dark.”
Birds take care of their young, protect their territory, take advantage of their situation, expect food and expect water. Did you ever notice that a bird bathes right after a good rainstorm? He doesn’t complain about it and tip toe around the puddle. He jumps right in and takes a bath. A bird eats seeds, fruit, grain, plants, insects and even taco shells! A bird takes advantage of his circumstances and receives everything as a positive.
Birds observe their surroundings and see things we don’t see. They see a small weed as a sofa or a piece of string as a pillow. Birds expect to have their needs met. Consider the birds and then consider: How much more valuable are we than birds? “O ye of little faith.” Seek first his kingdom and all these things will be given to you. Birds never worry!
Speaking Negativity Out Loud
Let’s dissect what really happens when we judge or criticize another person. When we judge and criticize another person, we simply dwell on the negative and expect them to behave badly. We obsess, think about and articulate what we see wrong with them. And by the power of expectation, we manifest it. Whether we believe in science or spiritualism or Christianity, by thinking and articulating the negative, we are in fact expecting it and receiving it. The Bible says, “Do not judge or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Wow! Sounds like what you reap you sow. Wow! Sounds like what you think about you bring about. Wow! Sounds like what you expect, you manifest. Wow, sounds like the power of expectation. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Expect the best of them.
One of my favorite people was once someone who I thought would be my greatest foe. If I had not given him the benefit of the doubt, we would have either not ever known each other at all or been avid enemies. Either way, I would have lost so much because our relationship has been a blessing to me and contributed greatly to my spiritual growth. I was part of a volunteer group that he led. Some decisions that were being made in the organization were having an adverse affect on people personally and since this was a volunteer organization, the result was that people were considering resigning.
My first thought about this leader was that he was a “jerk!” I heard some comments that supported that thought but I also heard someone say that it was not true, that it was not how he was. I paused enough to step back and give him a chance. Instead of joining the thinking of the others, I talked to him. I asked about his decisions and the rationale for each decision and found his reasoning to be sound and logical. I shared how people felt about the decisions and that some were planning to resign. He was surprised! We concluded that we were very different people—he was very task oriented and maybe didn’t convey his rationale as well as he could have; he didn’t perceive the team’s confusion; he was interested in the mission—the tasks. I also affirmed that I was very relationship-oriented and may have been over-sensitive to some things that were said. I perceived only the impact on the people and not the mission; I was interested in how people felt—the relationships. I believe our interaction helped us both be better in the areas we were weak in. Isn’t that exactly what the body of Christ is supposed to do for one another? Over time and through our relationship, God turned our weaknesses into strengths. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Give them a second chance and you may grow spiritually and maybe even find a friend.
When you hear negative things about people, you have a choice about what to do with that information. You can believe it, dispute it, forget it, talk about it or do nothing at all with it. All gossiping really is – is speaking your criticism out loud to people. When you gossip and criticize, you take what you were thinking about and speak it out loud. You draw this back into your own life and in essence create it or manifest it into your existence.
When you lie, you do a similar thing. You call something that is not as if it was. This is something God has done to create things. So if you speak something untrue you create it –and here’s the kicker—It may not be in the other person’s life but in your own life. Remember you have power to create your life. When you lie you draw that negativity to your life. Change your mind about worrying, criticizing, lying and gossiping. When you do these things, you are creating a negative life for yourself. Look at this verse in the Amplified Bible, “For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them]”. God wants us to think and dwell on good things, on positive things. He does not want us to worry or dwell on negative things.